Wives Widowed By Work

There is such a thing as a Workaholic. Men and women both are guilty of this addiction. If you are a housewife, it just presents itself a little differently. Trust me, I am not a workaholic. My desire is to think more than I work. My fingers are dirty and my my butt is not spreading from sitting for too long, but I know how to relax really well. My problem is more along the lines of Procrastination. My good friends can attest to this. My point, men are much better at manifesting this disorder in my opinion. My husband has a job. Gratitude does not begin to describe the feeling I have. Life, dental, and health insurance are again part of the Laing household. Again, I am grateful that I am not having to forage in the forest for edibles...LOL!...BUT...
7:00am to midnight is just not healthy. Not six days a week. (and half of Sunday if you want to know the truth) I think I was supposed to be born a little earlier, back when cell phones and laptops were only a twinkle in their inventors eyes. Husbands might come home, but the phone is still attached to their ears. As soon as the kids go to sleep, the laptop pops open. You might get 15 minutes of one on one attention. Count your lucky stars. They say their coming to bed, but they don't. They say they'll be home for dinner, but they aren't. They say it will only be for a few more weeks until the next project is over, but then a new one starts. They are optimistic to a fault.
I'm forming a club. WWW is what it's called. I know a few of you who read my blog are already members of this exclusive club. You laugh when ladies shut down when their husband is gone for a few days or are mystified when you eat dinner alone. Getting kids ready for church alone, going to Museums, parks, sporting events, recitals without a spouse. They profusely apologize, read books on how not to take work home, justify their addiction by spouting things like "At least I have a job" or "I've got to work this hard or else I'll lose my job"....I'm not believing it for a second. It's not that I am mad. I've come to the point where if my husband isn't attached to an electrical device, I think he is asleep. Whenever we go somewhere, I drive....Why? Because my husband is on his LAPTOP! We are planning a trip across the country and I will be driving so he can still work. When we go on dates...not like that happens very often anymore...he can barely go five minutes without being on the phone or texting some client. Everything is always pressing. Everything always has to be done 2 minutes ago. You know what I've learned from being a real widow?....nothing is THAT important. Time is precious and you wont really worry about what isn't getting done when you only have a finite period of time...we all have a finite period of time. So please, all you addicts out there, take a little time to talk to people, laugh, just sit and contemplate your life, play a game with your kids, cut the grass, read a book, walk instead of run, listen instead of fix....just sayin.

I have been a real live Widow! I can say for a surety that this is worse. You want to fight me on it? I dare you....


"After saying all these, take a look at the signs below and check the ones you consider for yourself. If you check more the 50% of them than you should definitely analyze your life.

1. In the free time spent with your friends and family you are talking about work and what you will have to do.

2. You promise your spouse you will be home for dinner in half of hour but there are passing another couple of hours until you arrive.

3. You forget to call your family or to take your child from swimming classes because you are working too much.

4. When it comes about lunch, you skip it constantly or rather eat some junk food.

5. Even if you get home early you are taking work to finish it home.

6. Week-ends are not the moment to spend with your family. You must work at the project for the next week.

7. At the end of the day the cleaning woman have to wheel you and your chair aside to be able to clean the place.

8. You enjoy extreme competitiveness but you also need to be in control.

9. Multi - tasking is not an option for you, it’s the only option.

10.You are living with nothing else in mind but work."

Does this sound like anyone you know?....If it's you, rethink your priorities...switch housework or kids in there if your job is Homemaker. For the love of your family....reevaluate.